Women?

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I just saw an ad for a panel discussion to mark the 100th anniversary of women’s suffrage. This reminded me that International Women’s day is coming up (March 8th), and this in turn reminded me of something I’ve been made aware of in recent years:

In some countries, International Women’s Day is celebrated by giving flowers to women.

To me this seems weird. It’s not what I grew up to understand that the day was about. It’s about celebrating the achievements of women, and about the struggle for gender equality. For me, it was never about men showing their appreciation for women.

Then again, that’s me, and apparently there are plenty of others who feel different.

I wrote a little bit more about it a few years back (here), and then again last year when I made an art project out of it (here).

Art?

Essentially, I too wanted to give flowers to the women around me, but it felt wrong to do it on International Women’s day. I would also need a whole lot of flowers, which I didn’t have, and which I couldn’t quite afford buying.

Instead, I waited until the day after (March 9th), and then I drew flowers for everyone. Simple basic flowers. Pen on paper. Nothing fancy. For each flower I drew I wrote a small dedication, took a photo of the drawing with my phone, and sent the photo to the friend I’d drawn the flower for.

I don’t remember how many I did, but I know there were a lot of them, and most of my friends seemed very happy about it.

I’m going to try to do the same thing this year, and I’m going to try and encourage others to do the same. Also, this isn’t really about women – it’s about showing some appreciations for your friends.

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Women?

This Thing With The Flowers

Yesterday was International Women’s Day. This sort of related to that, but not entirely.

Over the last few years I’ve become aware that in some cultures it’s a big thing to give flowers to women on International Women’s Day. I first came across this two years ago, and then I wrote this post. It contains some examples of different views on the giving of flowers on International Women’s Day.

For me personally, it seems really wrong to “celebrate” the day by giving flowers to women. It feels contrary to what the day is about. However, I really like the idea of giving people a little something to show them I appreciate them. I think that’s a nice thing to do.

I can still do that, right?

This year, I’ve spent most of the day after IWD drawing little flowers, taking pictures of them, and sending the pictures to people around me that I want to show some appreciation for.

I drew you a flower, because you’re good people, and I felt like it.

In the end, I’d made twenty five flowers that I’ve sent out to friends of mine. You can see them here, although I did blur out the names – just in case.

These are in chronological order, and as you can clearly see, my drawing skills improved with practice. Don’t worry if you can’t draw though. It’s not about how it looks; it’s about doing it yourself.

Give it a try. Send someone a flower.

For the Ladies?

Originally, I drew flowers only for women I know, but then it occurred to me that I have male friends who’s company and existence I appreciate. I should try and do something for them as well.

At first, the thought of drawing flowers to send to guys seemed a bit weird to me. Who am I familiar enough with that it won’t be awkward? I mean… It’s not like… You know… Whatever…

Equality, right? I can send pictures of flowers to my male friends if I want to.

Seven of the flowers above were sent to men I know. It would have been cool if the split was fifty-fifty, but it didn’t happen, and now I’m tired. It was tricky coming up with male friends I was comfortable sending the pictures to, and I didn’t want to just force it to meet some quota. Then again as I’m writing this, names keep popping up.

How to draw a flower?

It’s easy:

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The tricky part is actually sending the flower to someone when you don’t quite know how they will react to it. So far, the reactions I’ve had have been positive, and in all honesty I expected most of them to be, but I was still a bit nervous in some cases.

Then again, comparing the first flower I drew this morning with the last few it’s kind of obvious that improvement comes with practice. That said, I did draw the most “important” one first.

This Thing With The Flowers